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March,
2008
U.S.
Library of Congress ISSN 1549-893X
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1. Taking
Time to Acknowledge Change, & Receiving Something More
I
did something unusual for me and for many of us influenced by Western
culture: I set aside an entire day to acknowledge change. No squeezing
in emails, meetings, calls, errands, chores, a quick workout, etc.
Without a doubt, I knew that the most important business
on March 10th was the business of life.
In return, I
received something unusual, something meaningful. It arrived through
a series of coincidences that awed me.
I woke early
to drive to a labyrinth in Maryland. A labyrinth is a pattern on
the ground to be walked slowly and mindfully for relaxation, meditation,
or prayer. Unlike a maze (which confounds), it is unicursal--the
path in is the path out. In this case, the labyrinth was a large
spiral, the grass path demarcated by red bricks narrow-side up.
A woman from
West Virginia, gifted in bereavement guidance, had suggested this
ritual for contemplating all that my father's life and death mean
to me. And so it was that she and I met in a windswept field, winter
bare, down a two-lane rural road.
She told of
just having returned from the Outer Banks of North Carolina the
day before, of asking a guide to go to an historic, beautiful island
nearby. She said that it occurred to her to ask if the guide knew
a Hand who fished. The guide did. He pointed to a charming old home
used as a hunting and fishing camp--one where Dad had spent many
happy times.
What she did
not know, could not know: that island and that old home are places
that represent my father's joy in and embrace of life. The salt
marshes, ocean, and sound, the flocks of geese over head, the companionship
of others
there was always an adventure to be had: the clam-growing
experiment that failed in result but not in effort, or sloshing
through water, gigging flounder at night. The surrounding shallows
that require knowledge and respectful navigation. The thrill of
driving a tractor with no brakes. A wildly flaming cauldron of oil
in which the Thanksgiving turkey cooked. The cold, one-dog nights.
Raccoons. Neutria (mink-like animals evidenced by the holes they
left in the ground). Determined mosquitoes.
And
so, I was standing in a place I'd never been, to walk a labyrinth
remembering my Dad, with a woman I'd just met. And she had just
returned from a place that most embodied his spirit. She put a shell
from that very place gently in my hand. I walked slowly, tears streaming,
the shell held tightly.
I did something
unusual. I took time to acknowledge change and received something
more: change acknowledging me. From a sense of deep loss to wondering
if that shell was a postcard from my father.
What change
has occurred or is about to occur in your life? One that presents
an opportunity that you might, in the busyness of your life, let
slip by? Set aside time to acknowledge the change, and be open to
what it offers.
©
Copyright 2008, Beth Hand.
Beth Hand,
MBA helps leaders and organizations increase their effectiveness
and satisfaction, now and for the future. She can be reached at
(+1) 703.820.8074 or via her website www.leadershiphand.com.
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